Dating – What Not To Say
When getting to know someone, certain topics should be avoided. Here are a few.
1. Health. One time a date went into a lengthy story about a recent surgery. Sure I was concerned but I did not know this woman. I felt a bit awkward. Save the surgery and health issues for later, if the relationship gets to that point.
2. Exes. Never. Ever bring up your exes. Just don’t do it.
3. Sports stats (for guys). Unless she’s one of those sideline reporters for ESPN I’d avoid discussing Peyton Manning’s QB rating.
4. Talking only about yourself. As long as there is give and take, a real dialogue, then it’s fine to talk about yourself. However if your jaw is tired because you’ve dominated the conversation for the last 2 hours, shut up!
5. Bathroom Humor. Keep it classy.
What are some subjects that should stay off limits in those first dates? Tell me a time of when a guy or girl brought up something he or she shouldn’t have.
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Is this an advice blog? Or a blog about your own experiences? I was under the impression it was the latter. Assuming that’s the case, what have you specifically talked about on a date that you look back on and say ‘probably not the right thing to say?’ Or you can talk about really horrible things women have told you. And saying ‘One time a date went into a lengthy story about a recent surgery’ isn’t enough. That should be the first line of a 3 paragraph story about her story.
Honestly, this is reading like stuff I see on msn.com
You’re loosing me jamsmooth, you’re loosing me.
Future plans! I was on a first date with a guy when he said, “Hey, I would really like you to come over and help me pick out furniture for my place.” Huh? Another friend mentioned that she was out on a second date with a guy she wasn’t really sure about and he mentioned that they should go to his beach house when it got warmer. I’m sure he was just trying to get across that he had a beach house but it freaked her out and she was out.
That brings up another good one. Money. Don’t share that you do/don’t have money, how much you do/don’t make, or flashy material possessions. Sure, some people are into this but most often it comes across as insecurity.
The old rule was to not talk about religion or politics on a first date. I think the rule should be don’t get into it on a level where you alienate the other person. It’s ok to say, “I voted for Obama” or “I got to ABC church” but maybe not get into the stuff that gets your pulse racing.
You here that? Loosing KB! KB is getting loose by reading your blog. KB is no longer tight.
KB – the word I think you’re looking for is ‘losing’ as in, to be lost, or to be in the act of becoming lost.
Loosing is .. I don’t even think loosing is a real word (JK playboy, it is, I looked it up). Loosening, maybe.
Anyway, enough of my deconstructive banter. I just love the folks who get on a high horse and then make a simple spelling mistake.
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