My views on online dating are well documented. I think online dating is like gambling or playing the lottery. You are paying money for the chance to win a big a payout. Unfortunately for me the odds have not been in my favor. I am not saying it does not work. It does. My brother met his fiancé online.
When online dating works it works great, revealing opportunities to meet people you would never meet otherwise. That is also online dating’s biggest flaw.
When writing a profile, an immense challenge exists writing about yourself in a way that is funny, personable and original. Ultimately you are being judged on your looks. How else do you make a decision when everyone writes the same thing?
I know there are no guarantees with online dating and that’s my biggest gripe. If I’m paying you money for something I want a result. These sites only give access to meeting someone, they cannot guarantee it. I understand that.
Guess I did get something out of all my online dating, a novel. I have also made new friendships from online dating. In 2009 I met BG who has become a great friend to me. In 2006 I met AS who has proven to be an amazing friend. It hasn’t been a total disaster.
This last period of online dating will be my last. From here on out I’m focusing on meeting someone IRL.
What do you think about online dating? Has it worked for you? Have you ever tried? Why or why not? Do you think it’s easier or harder to meet someone IRL?
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It’s veggieconnection.com!! Not veggiedate, didn’t even know about that one!
I have tried online dating. Does it work for me? I’m not sure how to define this. Have I met the love of my life? No. Have I made some good friends and enjoyed getting to know new people? Yes. Overall, I think online dating is just another opportunity to meet new people and expand who you know.
It will always be easier to go on a date with someone you have already met in person where the first hurdle has already been crossed – the ‘do I find you attractive’ hurdle. Pictures and a composed profile can conjure up an image that is very different from the reality. However, online dating introduces you to people you may have never met in your daily life or had the opportunity to go out with.
I have had several friends meet their spouses online. In fact, one friend was set-up with someone who had asked her out in real life that she turned down. She thought, “If this system set us up, we must have something in common – maybe I’m being too superficial.” They went out and he is the love of her life.
Whether in real life or online, I have been out with lots of guys who aren’t the one. I don’t think online is any better or worse, it’s just different and has its own pros and cons.